10 Things Iโ€™d Tell My Younger Self ๐ŸŽ‚


Dear Reader,

Todayโ€™s my birthday, and I thought I'd share 10 things Iโ€™d tell my younger self.

โšก๏ธ ๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฝ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป. Whether in branding, business, or life, start messy, start scared, but start. Youโ€™ll grow through the process.

โšก๏ธ ๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ป๐—ผ, whether itโ€™s with clients, friends, or family. Not everyone is your person, and youโ€™re not everyoneโ€™s either.

โšก๏ธ Get some kick-ass, sexy photos of yourselfโ€”youโ€™ll thank yourself 10, 20, or even 50 years down the road. P.S. ๐—œ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒโ€”find a talented photographer. ๐Ÿ˜‰

โšก๏ธ Good food fuels the body, but real connection feeds the soul. ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜†โ€”๐—ป๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ, ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜†, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜, and keep people around who challenge and make you laugh.

โšก๏ธ Choose a partner who ๐˜ƒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜„๐˜๐—ต, and date a LOT to know yourselfโ€”because when you marry, youโ€™re marrying the whole family, too.

โšก๏ธ Donโ€™t drift through life in the dark or on a hamster wheel. Your trauma isnโ€™t your fault, but ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†.

โšก๏ธ ๐—–๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ธ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ด๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—น๐˜†. Friends who donโ€™t support your dreams or challenge you to grow donโ€™t deserve a front-row seat.

โšก๏ธ Celebrate your cultural identityโ€”๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ป. Standing out is powerful, so donโ€™t be afraid to be seen.

โšก๏ธ Invest in therapy and find someone who truly gets you, culturally and personally. ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.

โšก๏ธ Be your ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ. Other peopleโ€™s opinions may be loud, but your belief in yourself counts the most.

โ•ฐโ”ˆโžค Bonus: โšก๏ธ Remember, you can be ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฎ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€. Show up for yourself, do the work, and enjoy the journey.

xo,
Alpana

PS. Help me decideโ€”what should fill my glass today? ๐Ÿฅ‚ 

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