What I wish I'd known about photos at 40


Dear Reader,

Recently, I chatted with a relative of a family member.

She thanked me for a photo I’d taken years ago of her and her baby daughter — a cherished image that still sits within sight, one of the only ones they have displayed.

All these years later, she hasn't stepped in front of the camera again. Her daughter takes selfies of them together, but those stay buried in her phone.

They don’t see the light of day.

It made me feel both a little sad and grateful that one photo has held so much meaning.

She shared it with me to jog my memory, and it made me smile.
Then she sent a selfie her daughter had taken, and in it, she looked so happy.

It made me think about how often women avoid being photographed.



I hear it all the time from women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond: “I don’t like how I look in photos anymore.”

I used to feel the same.

I had spent years behind the camera — photographing celebrities, entrepreneurs, being published in The New York Times, and featured by Apple — yet I couldn't imagine being in front of the lens myself.

Here’s what I’ve come to learn.

Yes, our bodies change. The years show up in soft lines and extra curves.

But we also become more—more grounded, more confident, more ourselves.

And yet, our photos often stay stuck in an outdated version of us.
Or worse, we disappear from them altogether.

That’s why I’m passionate about empowering women 40+ to step in front of the camera — no matter your shape, size, or background.

Luminous is my portrait experience for women 40+.
And it’s coming soon.


xo,

Alpana

P.S. The version of you that exists right now—this chapter, this season—deserves to be documented. Not the "before" or "after." The NOW. Because right now, you're luminous.

P.P.S. Speaking of Luminous — my heart is full from experiencing the Diwali lights in Bombay for the first time in over 30 years. These iPhone snaps are from some of the best-lit neighborhoods, where everyday people were out soaking in the magic. Plus, a few images shared by The New York Times.





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